Dating during codependency recovery
Romantic relationships can be a great source of happiness in sobriety, but they can also be the source of great pain.
Although the partners of the addict are unequivocally not to blame for the addiction, and most certainly the consequences of it, they certainly carry responsibility for the shared relationship problems that contributed to the addiction.
The two are brought together by the dynamic I refer to as the "Human Magnet Syndrome." Both participate in a relationship dance of sorts.
Each person needs the other to feel complete in the shared dysfunctional relationship.
You feel sorry for yourself, baffled about why this is happening to you but not knowing what to do about it.
You try to convince yourself that the problems you are experiencing aren’t really that bad.